Kundalini & Sexuality

Because Kundalini is expanded consciousness, everything that's existed in you prior to awakening becomes amplified to be purified or looked at more closely in order to better integrate your embodiment. It can be useful to know this regarding sexuality, so that by having a deeper understanding of what is occurring, you can approach your experiences with more compassion and confidence.

There are a variety of experiences that can happen regarding sexuality when Kundalini awakens. 

-The sex drive can seemingly disappear for long periods of time
-The sex drive may increase immensely.

A mixture of the two above examples can be experienced at different times throughout the Kundalini process. Both are useful experiences. A largely decreased sex drive can help to tap into deeper wisdom and compassion and see all beings from the soul rather than the body. Having an increased sex drive can help to confront any patterns that need to be released, release sexual shame or guilt if any exist, deepen compassion, or it can lead to wonderful experiences with a loving partner. It's helpful to remember that sexuality is healthy. I enjoy the Buddhist rule that we don't want to hurt anyone with our sexuality or entertain sexual habits that are harmful to the heightened sensitive mind (like pornography or excessive masturbation), but it's good to understand that it's unnecessary and can even be harmful to repress our sexuality or tuck it away. Having a balanced and compassionate approach regarding sexuality is useful. 

-Sexual feelings can be experienced energetically in different chakras or different locations in the body. 
-Unusual sexual feelings or compulsions can come up from time to time that feel embarrassing, confusing or weird. 

These exist in most people and can usually be laughed off, viewed from witness consciousness or nourished with self-compassion until they go away. 

-Any sexual issues that existed prior to awakening can potentially come up to help you better navigate them. 

Certain issues, if severe, can be aided through work with a therapist.

-You're able to pick up on other people’s sexual feelings.

It can be useful not to confuse other people's sexual feelings with your own so that you better understand how to address them when they come up. Also, while it can seem a nuisance at first, it's useful to have compassion for the people who have these feelings and understand that sexual feelings are very normal. However, this doesn't mean we need to tolerate people who are consciously imposing their sexual feelings and impulses on us. Every experience can be addressed accordingly. 

-Orgasms can be amplified. There can be more powerful/whole-body orgasms.

-There can be greater sensitivity to the sexual partners’ inner realm. If they are experiencing grief, anger, or sadness, it can be more easily felt during or after sex. You may experience your sexual partners’ memories or unconscious material clairvoyantly or whilst dreaming. 

-You can connect more deeply to spiritual transmission and heart connection during sex. 

Because of the last two examples, it can become intolerable for some people going through a Kundalini awakening to be intimate with someone with whom they don't have a sincere, loving connection. It can also become intolerable to choose a sexual partner who isn’t on a spiritual path, is reckless with how they engage with their inner landscape and the world around them, or is engaging in frivolous sexual activity with others. Furthermore, the inability to communicate sensitive experiences with a sexual partner can be discouraging, uncomfortable and disconnecting. Choosing to only engage in sex with someone whom there is a sincere, loving, and trusting connection with can prevent picking up unwarranted thought material, energies, and negative Kundalini symptoms. Being intimate with someone in a connection that provides authenticity, vulnerability and deep care can lead to beautiful experiences of bliss, joy and love, as well as expansion and growth in both individuals.

I hope this information was helpful to you.

Many blessings and best wishes,

Morgan